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Then you wouldnt be alone.  It is not easy to follow a meal plan at all. If it was easy to follow a meal plan recovery from an ED would be easy.  Please don’t be discouraged,  just keep seeing the therapist and dietitian and working away at it.  You will get there if you persevere.  Perhaps there  are some people out there in tumblr land who can let me know how they got through with meal plans in the beginning?

Also one of my favourite recovery blogs is  pro-recovery,  she gives wonderful advice and she has most certainly been in your shoes.  <3

Hi anon, thanks for the message 4 things worry me here.  

1. skipping lunches for a year
2. you said “if my parent make me” I will eat other meals
3. and you aren’t nearly satisfied. 
4. a stone is quite a lot.

So those things are a concern and I think you are a little worried too other wise you would not ask me about this.  Is there someone you can share your concerns with, a good friend, sister, mother, school counsellor?  I am not saying you have an eating disorder at all but this how one can start so perhaps you need to heed your own intuition on this and get some advice. Hope this helps<3

Hi anon.  Sorry but this is a really confusing question.  I am not sure exactly what you are wanting to know.  Are you wanting to know about weight restoration?     Also I am not a medical professional so I really can’t answer these sorts of questions anyway. You need to ask your doctor or a dietitian because every person is different.  

From our personal experience when my daughter was trying to restore weight after anorexia she had to consume any where between 2500 -3500 cals per day and sometimes more  to make a gain of 0.5  to 1 kg per week.   But we didn’t count calories, we just had 3 meals and 3 snacks and energy drinks.  When a safe goal weight is achieved and stablised you can relax on the schedule and drop the energy drinks. <3

Hi Anon,  thanks for the message, you sound a little concerned.   Are you still seeing a doctor or a dietitian or a counsellor regularly, if not please go esp to a doctor and counsellor.  The resting heart rate you have is definitely very low and needs to be checked out.   I am sorry but I would have to agree with the people that have been telling you that you still look underweight because a bmi of 17 is definitely  on the low side.  Please go get checked out and let me know how you go<3

Sweetheart there is a definite problem.  You just told me you restrict, binge, feel obsessive and compulsive, you are anxious and depressed and you are cutting.  There is definitely a problem and your bmi is totally irrelevant.  You are not over reacting what so ever so please confide in somebody.  A trusted friend , doctor, counsellor, or eating disorder support line.  There are several support lines in every country depending on where you are from.   I hope this helps and please let me know how you go<3

Hi Anon, I really can’t answer this one with any authority because I am not a doctor but as far as I know the time it takes for gastrointestinal symptoms to resolve can vary considerably from person to person.  For some who have been long term abusers of laxatives and purging the damage may even be permanent.  If you have concerns about your belly please talk to your doctor or counsellor because they will be able to advise you better than I.   From my own experience with my daughter I know that constipation is common during anorexia and yes quite simply to remedy that you have to eat and drink more especially things with fibre and bulk like rice and bread and veges and fruit because there has to be enough food going through to stimulate the intestines to  to work efficiently.  Sometimes if digestion has really slowed due to an ED there may be need for fibre supplements  to help get things going.   Hope this helps<3

Thank you so much for your kind message.  I am so proud of my daughters progress she is doing really well at the moment.  She is doing all the hard work of recovery  and I feel like I really just hover about nervously watching and hoping and probably being a pain at times.  This blog has been a great outlet for me and I sincerely am very grateful for the support and well wishes I have been given for Bec.   Also I am so very glad your Mom has been by your side throughout this too and I hope that if nothing else this experience has strengthened the bond between you both.  All the best to you for the future<3

Hi Anon.  Wow for fourteen you are amazingly mature and aware. You are like so many girls I have encountered out there who are tackling this alone or with little support so I have huge respect for you too.  So many girls with eds at your age are in complete denial about their eating disorders and unless someone intervenes they just go on and on suffering.    I am so glad you have chosen recovery and wish you all the best on your path back to wellness.  I do hope you have some support though to help you thru by way of a good friend, doctor or counsellor.  Thank you for your lovely message<3

Hi Anon.  Sweetheart please don’t worry I don’t think you have bulimia.  Throwing up once or twice after a meal does not a bulimic make.  Maybe you did it a couple of times out of curiosity or something like that but that doesn’t automatically mean you have bulimia.  To be diagnosed with bulimia you would need to be engaging in this behaviour regularly over weeks, months or years.  For bulimics the behaviour is addictive and clearly from what you say you are not in the grips of a compulsion.  You do  sound like you are a worrier though so always remember it’s okay to share your worries with a trusted person than sweat on them, doing so will give you a clearer perspective.  Hope this helps<3

To Anon

If Being a Bitch means…

I stand up for myself and my beliefs

I stand up for those I love

I speak my mind, think my own thoughts

Or do things my way

That I won’t compromise what is in my heart

That I live my life my way

I won’t allow people to step on me

I refuse to tolerate injustice

If It means I have the courage and

Strength to allow myself to be me.

So be it

You can try to stomp on me, douse my inner flame

Squash the beauty I hold within

BUT YOU WON”T SUCCEED

Because if that makes me a bitch

A PROUD BITCH I AM  

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