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Be kind to yourselves
I’ve used this blog to confess to all sorts of bizarre behaviors related to my eating disorder, from laxatives to suicide attempts. Lest anyone reading this blog still be under the illusion that an ED is glamorous, let me remind you that it’s not. At all.
But I haven’t really discussed one of the things that has sort of come along with the ED for me. I found it more than a little shameful (this from a girl who found bowel movements to be a stimulating source of discussion during treatment) and frankly kind of weird. I was aware, on some level, that it was part of the cluster of symptoms that came along with having anorexia: a little obsessive, a lot compulsive, and mainly related to anxiety. Yet I still didn’t want to discuss it, neither on my blog or with my therapist, because it was just really bizarre, yo.
I pull out my own hair.
There. It’s the truth.
Yes really liked this article. And there are so many variations to this, picking and squeezing skin, picking at the scalp, biting the nails, picking at toes, etc, etc,. So common yet seldom discussed.
If you hear some in the eating disorder community talk about recovery, you could be forgiven for thinking that they were trying to get you to buy a timeshare at a resort. Recovery, they say, is where you love yourself. You love your body. You accept your imperfections. Your life is good, so good. You’ve gotten to the root of your disorder. And you are never, ever, NEVER going to relapse. You are IN RECOVERY and you are here to stay.
Like I said, it sounds kind of like a travel brochure. Or a secret society with an even more secret handshake.
Of course, plenty of people acknowledge that recovery isn’t perfect. But if you look at the way the eating disorder community tries to construct recovery, it tends to be built as this idealized form of what Life is Going to be Like from Now On, Forever and Ever, Amen. This isn’t what recovery is like. Getting hit in the face with the rude reality of the day in, day out, utter slog of recovery (didn’t I just eat yesterday?) was enough to make me seriously consider quitting. Read more
Reality check! Any woman who feels she’s not good enough might understand why after watching this.
She really nailed this to the wall, didn’t she?
Say hello to Sweetie.
Project #STOP IRRATIONAL THINKING
You are a human being of value, regardless of your body. It is JUST a body. It’s time to stop measuring our worth based on our body! You’re okay just as you are. You are a unique person, capable and loveable, with special talents and strengths, with inner wisdom, passions, strength, intelligence and creativity – a human being of value. So accept and respect yourself now.Get comfortable with the real you. The you that matters. The you that matters has nothing to do with your body.
Your body is okay. Your size is okay. The good news is that you can change how you feel about your body by changing your self-talk. If you are especially concerned about your weight and body shape, understand that your body has an opinion of what it should weigh at this time in your life. It regulates weight around a setpoint that may be nearly impossible to change. Recognize how destructive the obsession to be thin is. Your weight is not a measure of your self-worth. Accepting this can give you new freedom.
Let go of constant comparison and competition. You don’t need to be or “do” better than anyone else to be a worthwhile person. Just because you are not skinny, does not mean you are worthless.
Keep a gratitude journal. Have you inventoried the richness of your life assets? Try it. Add to that inventory and each day write down three things you are grateful for in your gratitude journal. It can be humbling to realize the abundance of riches we have, and how much we take it for granted. The everyday joys of family, friends, home, community, country, health, work and the wonder of nature are all around us. Contemplating this can bring you deep serenity.
Put weight in its proper perspective and focus on what’s really important in life. Do you want people to remember you for the shape of your body or the shape of your character and soul?
If you are interested in reading more about self worth, and how your body is not a measure of your worth:
Self-Esteem Comes in all Sizes by Carol Johnson
The Healthy Weight Network